The pregnant mother experiences predictable psychological and emotional stages during a typical gestation of 9 months. In the very beginning, with a positive pregnancy test, a cascade of changes begins. Even if very longed-for, there will be stress and anxiety with the confirmation of pregnancy. This is a crisis for a couple which will require many adaptations. The woman must now think of herself as a mother and prepare for that role in addition to maintaining her other roles, including being a mate if she has a long term partner. Her partner must now view him/herself as a parent and for both, career goals may be altered or even thwarted. And each begins to view the other as a parent now.
Decisions about finances need to be made and choices about employment need to be discussed and worked out together. When these discussions can occur openly and when needs are identified honestly, the resolution of agreeing on a plan allows for the couple to move forward unencumbered.
Although labor and birth are months in the future, fears about the process and outcome also may arise. Choosing a health care provider that is supportive and willing to discuss the questions that the mother and partner each have is essential for a healthy and positive experience. A lot of research may be necessary to engage a provider that results in a good fit for each couple.
Coming next, what changes occur in the next stage?
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